What is Counselling?

“The provision of professional assistance and guidance in resolving personal or psychological problems.”

So, what is it?

This is a difficult question to answer. At its simplest, counselling is meeting with another person in a quiet room to talk about yourself and be listened to and understood.

 

There are many different approaches to counselling. You may have heard of some of the different types: Gestalt, person-centred, humanistic, psychodynamic, cognitive behavioural therapy. You may also have lots of questions about what to expect: will I have to lie on a couch while I talk? Am I going to get told off? Will I be told what to do?

People generally come to counselling because there is something they want to resolve -you may have difficulties with depression or anxiety, you might not know exactly what it is, but you have a feeling that something needs to be different. Some people want a problem solver, some people want someone to talk to, to be heard. We are wonderful, complex beings and everyone is different - so there is no 'fix' that works for everyone.

 

You are the best qualified person to understand you, although it might not feel that way when you’re in the middle of something. No one else has lived your life: you are the best expert we have on you.

 

My role is to help you figure out what you know about yourself. And together we explore your feelings and reactions and stories. Sharing this experience with you I am able to help you notice things you might not have picked up on before, maybe about the way you see the world. 

This can be a tough experience, which is why we go together, at your speed.